Recent findings, published in the journal Mindfulness, provide insight into how parental couples can navigate the complexities of their relationship, especially when one or both partners have experienced childhood trauma. The study suggests that being mindful of one’s feelings and facing emotions head-on, rather than avoiding them, are crucial factors in fostering a satisfying and meaningful relationship among parents.
A fulfilling romantic relationship plays a critical role in an individual’s overall well-being. However, the arrival of a child, while a source of immense joy, often brings with it a decline in relationship satisfaction for many couples. This phenomenon, reported by up to 90% of parental couples, can have far-reaching consequences, not just for the parents but also for the child’s socio-affective development.
The new study dives into this complex issue by focusing on a specific group: couples where one or both partners have experienced childhood interpersonal trauma, such as sexual abuse or exposure to violence. Such traumatic experiences can have long-lasting effects, influencing not just individual mental health but also the dynamics of the most intimate human bonds.
“Our team has had a strong commitment in studying the pervasive impact of childhood trauma on survivors’ functioning in adulthood, especially their relational functioning,” said Natacha Godbout, a sexology professor at the Université du Québec à Montréal, and her PhD student Francis Morissette Harvey in a joint statement to PsyPost.
“In this case, we were keen to explore how early adverse experiences may affect the dynamics of parental relationships. We wanted further our understanding of how childhood trauma not only affects individuals directly, but also reverberate across generations, influencing family dynamics and shaping relational patterns. Hopefully, our work will shed light on key mechanisms that might down the line to help survivors heal from adverse interpersonal experiences they had in their childhood and prevent further impacts on their couple, parenting and offspring.”
The researchers analyzed data from 529 heterosexual couples from Quebec who were part of a larger, longitudinal study designed to assess the impact of childhood trauma on parental well-being. Data collection was a two-wave process, utilizing self-reported measures administered through the Qualtrics online platform.
At the first wave, participants completed the Cumulative Childhood Trauma Questionnaire, which assessed exposure to eight types of childhood interpersonal trauma before the age of 18. Mindfulness was measured with the Mindfulness Attention Awareness Scale, focusing on the awareness and attentional aspects of mindfulness as particularly relevant for relational outcomes.
Experiential avoidance was assessed at the second wave using the Acceptance and Action Questionnaire-II, which evaluates one’s unwillingness to remain in contact with unpleasant internal experiences. Relationship satisfaction, the study’s primary outcome, was measured at both baseline and follow-up with the Dyadic Adjustment Scale, a widely recognized tool for assessing couple relationship satisfaction.
The researchers discovered that parents who reported higher levels of mindfulness — the ability to be present and attentive to one’s feelings without judgment — tended to engage less in experiential avoidance, a mechanism where individuals dodge distressing thoughts and feelings. This, in turn, had a positive impact on relationship satisfaction, suggesting that facing one’s feelings head-on rather than evading them could enhance the quality of romantic partnerships among parents.
Parents with a history of childhood interpersonal trauma exhibited lower levels of mindfulness, which predisposed them to higher levels of experiential avoidance. This sequence of diminished mindfulness leading to increased experiential avoidance contributed to lower relationship satisfaction. This finding is particularly significant as it not only confirms the detrimental effects of childhood interpersonal trauma on adult relationships but also identifies specific mechanisms — mindfulness and experiential avoidance — through which these effects manifest.
A interesting aspect of the findings is the dyadic analysis, which highlighted not just individual effects but also the mutual influence between partners. The researchers found that the mindfulness and experiential avoidance of one partner not only affected their own relationship satisfaction but also had a significant impact on their partner’s satisfaction. This mutual influence underscores the interconnectedness of parental couples’ experiences.
“We found that when parents are more aware of their feelings (mindful awareness) and don’t avoid their emotions (experiential avoidance), they tend to experience more satisfying and meaningful couple relationships,” Godbout and Harvey explained. “This suggests that learning to pay attention to our feelings and not trying to ignore them can make our relationships stronger and happier. This is very important as strong couple relationship foster solid coparenting, healthier and happier family and kids!”
Despite its significant insights, the study has some limitations, including its focus on heterosexual couples from a specific geographic location and its reliance on self-reported measures of trauma and mindfulness. Future research is encouraged to include a broader demographic to capture the diversity of parental experiences and relationships.
“While our study underscored the potential for mindfulness-based interventions to support trauma survivors who welcomed a new child, clinical studies testing and implementing these ideas will be necessary before the knowledge we contributed to creating can be readily and concretely used in clinical setting with the people that need it the most,” Godbout and Harvey said. “But first, to make it likelier to happen, we would urge our colleagues from the scientific communities to replicate and extend these findings to diverse populations, including couples at different stages of the parenting journey and individuals with varying demographic backgrounds.”
“We want to seize this opportunity to advocate for scientific vulgarization, especially in psychology and talking about couples and intimate relationships where research findings can have profound implications for individuals’ everyday lives,” the researchers added. “Our team is working hard to make sound research, complex concepts and nuanced scientific findings accessible to the general public through simplified language and engaging medium. We believe that such effort can not only enhances the societal impact of our scientific work, but also enrich public discourses and promote healthier societies through.”
The study, “Childhood Trauma and Relationship Satisfaction Among Parents: A Dyadic Perspective on the Role of Mindfulness and Experiential Avoidance,” was authored by Francis Morissette Harvey, Alison Paradis, Marie‑Ève Daspe, Jacinthe Dion, and Natacha Godbout.
